Toilet Tales

Okay, my two and a half year old is not toilet trained. We tried for a bit while I was pregnant with Mackenzie but he started crying everytime we tried so I decided that he wasn't ready and that we would try again later. He has gone on the toilet but right now, even though I ask several times a day and he owns both Thomas the Tank engine and Batman glow in the dark underwear, he has absolutely no intrest in using the toilet. We talk about it regularly and I have told him that this is what big boys do but still he resists, and I'm not going to push him. I feel when he's ready, he'll let me know.

Apparently, this is just not good enough for the rest of the world. At least once a week, I hear "oh, he's not trained yet?" in the voice that clearly says that he better have a medical reason otherwise I'm just the crappiest parent on the face of the planet. I've check the parenting book, this is normal. In fact it states that to try before now can cause issues with the child. Like a friend of mine, who swears her child was toilet trained before he was a year and a half, but she now has a four year old who instead of going to the bathroom, will pull his pants down and go in the corner of his room before he resumes playing. Who says kharma doesn't work? Or even my grandma, who told me that seeing and child over a year still in diapers was unnatural. Or Brian's grandma who looked at me like I was crazy when she babysat today and I handed her a diaper before leaving.

My kid is not a freak, and I'm not a bad parent. I just think that he has so little control over his life and he's been dealing with so many changes lately with his new sister and he's dealt with all of it amazingly that giving him a little control over when he's ready for the toilet is not going to hurt him. I'm not going to stop offering it but I think it should be his choice. That and giving in to this makes me feel a little less conspicious then when he insist on wearing his hockey helmet everywhere.