Bigger Person

Okay, so I was tagged ages ago by Angie, and yeah I will eventually get to that but not right this second. (Mainly 'cause I can't think of 5 interesting things that no one else knows....) But this post is something different then that, I just wanted Angie to know that I wasn't ignoring her:).

Okay so a while ago, I had a friendship break up. It didn't go out with a bang and a fight or by a drifting like they normally do, this one was, well, a little weird. I told her some information that I thought she should know and although she said that she still wanted to be friends and that she agreed that I was right to tell her, things just went "splat" after that. We used to be talking daily, her calling me, but she didn't call again.

She had some of my things, more specifically Ben's camera that he got for his birthday because he forgot it, and about $60 of my books that were borrowed, and I had some of her things, a $10 outfit and a $3 sleeper. I had had them for a while, but it was no big deal, I kept washing them and Ben kept sneaking in and wearing them, but no big deal between friends. So I knew that she was going out of town for a week, but Ben had been asking for his camera and my dad wanted to borrow it for a friend for an upcoming trip, so I asked if I could get it before she went away after a few days of her not talking to me (I thought that maybe she just needed some space but I needed the camera back). She replied that sure I could come pick up his stuff, ummm...I only asked for the camera, but I had better bring all of her stuff back too. I was a little put off by this, I hadn't thought that our friendship was ending just that she needed some time, and honestly, I would have given even more if I hadn't needed that camera. So I looked and searched and searched for her clothes but for the life of me, I couldn't find the shirt. Since she was so firm that I wouldn't get Ben's camera back without the clothes, I was hesitant to contact her again, and sure enough she went on vacation and my need for the camera passed.

So more time passed, and the shirt was still MIA, but she contacted me again about everything, this time threatening me, saying that if I didn't bring her things back the next day, then the day after that she was going to sell all my things in a garage sale. I decided to take my lumps since I did lose her clothes and let her sell everything. I knew that it was the outfit she was more concerned about and since the shorts were just a denim short without the shirt and since she was, well, a little anal about the top of and outfit only ever being worn with the the bottom, I figured that she wouldn't want them back, and well I hate confrontation so I figured letting her sell my $70 camera and books made up for the loss that she took. We haven't talked since. However, I've been moving for the past week and out of nowhere, found the shirt, (it was under my kids mattress, not bed, mattress).

So today, I'm washing them and I'm going to bring them back. Normally, anti-confrontational me would just say, "let it be, it's done" but I really started to think not the typical, WWJD but rather, what would I want my kids to do? My kids are finally getting old enough that I know in a few years, I will be held accountable for my actions by them. I want to be able hold my head high and say, "I know that it's tough but you should do the right thing" and I want them to know that I'm coming from personal experience when I tell them this. I'll let you know how this turns out...