"How to not to deal with an over-emotional female" AKA "How to get to sleep on the couch"

Okay, so anyone, and I mean ANYONE, who knows me knows that I'm a bit on the emotional side....okay a lot on the emotional side. But in my defense it makes me very empathic and is mainly because I have a lot of imagination and even if I've never felt the feeling before, I can do a decent job of putting myself in someone else shoes. Sometimes this gets me in a lot of trouble with friends, mainly because I'm needy too and if someone is ignoring me, I keep putting myself in their shoes until I come up with a damn good reason to be angry at me and so I feel bad and don't blame them for never wanting to speak with me again even though it's probably just that we've grown apart or well, sometimes just that they got busy. It also opens me up for a lot of pain because sometimes even small things hurt a lot, like the other day when Ben called me mean and I cried though like his whole nap time until I was restored as the bestest mommy in the world. And sometimes, well, it makes me fight with my husband for some fairly stupid reasons.
The other day in the course of my job, I work from home calling people who have sent my company a request to be contacted, I called a lady who after dealing for about 2 minutes with her rather crazy mother, (I swear the lady couldn't hear a word I said and kept saying the oddest comments) finally took the phone. Immediately, I wished she hadn't. Now this is going to sound maybe a bit bad of me but the lady was crying, not just crying but bawling on the phone. And this will sound selfish, but I didn't want to cry and I knew that just about any reason that would make a person cry this badly if explained to me (which I was not encouraging) would make me cry. Again, selfish I know, but for personal anguish, well, I don't like strangers know that I cry so I would have probably let me struggle through the call with the crazy mother rather then get on the phone. Immediately upon hearing her tears and knowing that we can call back later and that my reasons for calling her were not THAT important, I tried to say we could call back later and setting up a call back time and date but the lady would not have it. She wanted to talk and to a certain extent, I'm honored that she felt I was a friendly ear to talk to. As I was trying to talk her into a call back, she told me she miscarried about 20 minutes before my call between sobs. I was devastated for her. I've recently had a friend who miscarried and I cried many nights for her, feeling a mere shadow of her pain I'm sure, but still upset over the loss of a dream and the pain she must be feeling and this call brought it all back except this unknown strangers pain I was hearing first hand.
After I had struggled though the call, letting my tears fall as silently as possible and rushing to try and stop intruding on this poor woman's grief, I put my headset down and started sobbing. I needed to let it all out. Which is where my husband, the insensitive lunk, comes in. Now we're going on our second anniversary and have known each other for 6 years, 6 years! And as I've stated ANYONE who knows me, sometimes even for a few minutes, knows that I have a tendency to be hyper emotional. So what does my husband, the man who should know me better then anyone do? Yup, that's right, he makes fun of me. Now I'm sure a few of you, or well Char since I think you're my only reader, are saying to yourself "well, don't you know your husband? Doesn't he usually react this way?" and the answer is yes, he does but in my defence I tried not to tell him and I told him he would think it was stupid, (aka. you're not allowed to make fun of me for this since you're making me tell you) Now I know, laughing will sometimes ease pain but seriously, did you think trying to make me laugh at me was wise? Couldn't you come up with anything better since even when I'm not crying my eyes out I don't like being thought of as an overwrought female? And taking offence when I didn't want to take your comfort after you made me feel like a fool for crying in the first place?
Let's just end this with one simple comment, he's lucky the couch is comfy.